Tips On Raising Nice & Caring Kids: Instill These Essential Values

Parents have a special privilege to be the greatest influencers in the early years of their child’s life. So as a responsible parent, one of your goals is probably to raise a kind and caring kid. Aside from doing society a big favor, it would be a huge accomplishment to see your children grow up to be compassionate and caring adults.

Yet as they say, it takes a village to raise a child. As they grow, your little one will most likely be exposed to various ideas, elements, and individuals that can positively or negatively create a huge impact on them. If you are not vigilant, you may one day discover that your child has become a stranger and that it is too late for any remedy. The following suggestions will help ensure that you are raising your kids well.

Teach Your Children To Be Courteous

One of the best indicators of a poorly-raised child is rudeness so teaching simple polite gestures such as saying please, excuse me, and thank you is a must. Aside from that, good manners are beneficial in all aspects of life so it is best to instill this value as early as possible. Remember that polite children grow up to be gracious adults.

Teach Them The Power of Kindness

You surely do not want to raise bullies with little or no regard to the feelings of others. So encourage your kids to do small acts of kindness every day. Tell them that the simple effort of lending a helping hand to a needy friend or saying a word of encouragement to a grieving person has the power to turn someone one’s life for the better.

Teach Them The Value Of Patience

Try your best not to rant whenever you have to line up and try not to scream when your child is being unruly. It is definitely a big challenge but displaying self-control will teach the youngsters the value of patience. Teaching them patience will help your children to manage their emotions and stay calm in stressful situations.

Encourage Them To Share

Your kid will grow up to be a generous fellow if you as parents will provide them opportunities to share what they have, no matter how small it is. It can be as simple as giving them extra food in their lunch bag so they have something to share with their classmates. You can also get your children involved in charitable activities. The thought that their small act will be of good help to others will boost your kid’s confidence as well.

Show Them Ways To Be Grateful

If you fail to teach your kids the value of gratitude, they may grow up to be whiners and complainers. Teaching your kids to be thankful for the things they have in life will help you raise happy and positive individuals. You can try simple activities like keeping a daily gratitude journal together so they can be aware of the blessings they receive.

The task of parenthood may be overwhelming and you probably sometimes worry that you are screwing things up for your kids. Yet amidst the millions of parenting tips and suggestion you will come across along the way, the formula for raising good kids boils down to one thing and that is by leading through example. Kids learn more by watching you and will likely pick up most of your gestures and habits.

Therefore, the most effective way to teach values to your children is by practicing the values yourself. The best thing about it is that as you teach your kids to be better a person, you end up improving yourself as well.

 

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How to Keep The Romance Alive (Even With Kids)

Whether you’re new parents or a couple married for 25 years with children in their teens, keeping romance alive isn’t always easy. Schedules get complicated and busier. Stressors may change, but new ones always seem to replace the old ones. Life is just plain busy. So finding the time — making it — is key to ensuring love grows along with the kids. Remember: One day it will be just the two of you once more.

Here are six simple ways to keep that romance alive.

  1. Date Nights

Schedule a date night and stick to it. Write it in the calendar and honor it just like you would any appointment. The date doesn’t have to be fancy, complicated or expensive. Dinner and a movie — let yourselves be entertained. Or a hike on a mountain trail with a picnic by a stream. A bottle of wine, cheese and loaf of bread on a beach as the sun sets. A tennis match or golf outing. It’s about time for the two of you. Take turns choosing the date.

  1. Me Time Is Just As Important

Give each other time alone to do something that rejuvenates you. Sometimes, we need to fill ourselves up before we can give to others. Take the kids to a movie so you can have a few hours to read a favorite book in peace. Encourage your partner to join that softball league. Walk the dog on that favorite trail. Have a women’s — or men’s — night out where you can enjoy friendships without worrying about what the kids are doing. Respecting each other’s individuality is a gracious gift.

  1. Write It Down

Leave each other love notes in unexpected places — a lunchbox, by the coffeemaker, taped to the bathroom mirror, inside a suitcase. And do so frequently.

  1. Getaway Just The Two Of You

Take a night or weekend away. You’re lucky if you have family who volunteers to watch the kids so that you can have a romantic getaway. If you don’t, ask good friends who you trust to watch the children — and return the favor. Even if infrequent, a night or two in a place other than home rekindles the fire.

  1. Remember the Golden Rule

Be kind to each other. Raising children is difficult. There’s no one manual to follow. And sometimes the stresses of the day trigger negative reactions. Remember to forgive one another, to allow for imperfection and to realize not everything said in frustration is personal. Forgive and move one. As Gary Chapman, author of “The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate,” said: “Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment. It is a choice to show mercy, not to hold the offense up against the offender. Forgiveness is an expression of love.”

  1. Thoughtful Communication

Take time to talk each day, to connect, even for 5 minutes. Listen actively. Grab a quick kiss while doing the dishes. Say thank you for the little things. Hug as you pass each other in the doorway. Hold hands while watching that Disney movie for the 10th time. And always say “I love you” as you fall off to sleep.

Although making the time for each other and creating romance is easier said than done, it is essential for a happy family, and successful marriage. If you can carve out the time together, it will make parenting more fun and rewarding– you will not only be building a special bond with your children, but also a deeper bond with your significant other.

 

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3 Ways to Make this Holiday Season One You Won’t Forget

There’s no question that the holidays are the most joyful time of the year. And there really is something to be said about carrying on family traditions from on holiday season to the next. But everyone can use a little change every now and then, so don’t be afraid to make a little tweak in your holiday plans this year! Here are 3 ways to make this holiday season one you won’t forget.

Schedule a trip

If you’re used to spending the holidays at home, planning a fun trip for the holidays will be sure to make this season you will never forget. Always wanted to have a tropical Christmas? Or maybe one abroad? This year is just as good as any other to make those dreams come true. So pack your bags and learn what it’s like to celebrate the holidays in a different culture.

Start a new family tradition

Keeping the family traditions alive is so important to maintaining the family identity, values, and culture across generations. But who says there’s any harm in making new ones? Gather your family together this season for a new family tradition. Maybe instead of opening Christmas presents on Christmas morning, you head down to the local soup kitchen to serve Christmas breakfast for those who are less fortunate than you. Or perhaps you host your first annual holiday party that raises awareness for a cause your family cares about. Whatever it is, make sure your new tradition brings the family together and brings joy into other’s lives.

Try simplifying your plans instead

Instead of breaking your back trying to make it to every single holiday party you always do, take a break. There’s no reason to attend the work party, the neighborhood party, and the holiday high school reunion party all in the same weekend. Even if it’s what you do every year, make this holiday season a bit more relaxing and family-focused. Only go to the events that mean something to you because that’s really what the holiday season is all about.

The holidays are the time of year to spend time with your family making memories and carrying on the traditions you’ve always had. But this year, try these 3 ways to make this holiday season one you will never forget!

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3 Beautiful Things About Pregnancy You Don’t Hear About Enough

If you take a look at what’s on the web about pregnancy or read any kind of informational pregnancy books or guides, you will no doubt get your fair share of precautions, warnings, signs to look for, and the horror stories. But people forget to share, write about, and tell you about the downright wonderful things that happen over this nine-month period. And the events of pregnancy truly are amazing. These are 3 of the most beautiful things about pregnancy that you don’t hear about enough.

The Anticipation

Nine months is a long time await the arrival of your son or daughter. Thinking of names, decorating the nursery, and picking out baby outfits are necessary ways to prepare for the arrival of your child, but they also build up the suspense. And oh what a wonderful suspense pregnancy is! Just as your baby is getting ready to make its way into the world, pregnancy is the perfect amount of time to make sure you are prepared and the world your baby enters into is full of love.

The Natural Glow

Pregnancy causes physical changes in your body that actually make your body glow from the inside out. Your hair is fuller, your nails are stronger, and your skin is brighter. Not to mention, life is literally pulsing through your veins, so you can’t help but smile. Your entire body naturally glows a little more than normal over this nine-month period with the gift of life.

The Relatability

Because pregnancy is such a natural process, nearly everyone you meet will make some sort of connection with you. You will hear all kinds of “congratulations” from close friends and strangers alike. Whether you run into an expectant mother in line at the grocery store, see a young family with a newborn baby on a stroll through your neighborhood, or you meet an older couple who shares the joys of parenthood with you, the “pregnancy connection” is unlike any other bond.

Sure, pregnancy can be scary, especially if you’ve never been through it before. Your body changes in ways you didn’t even know it could, and you may experience feelings and emotions you didn’t even know existed. But when it really comes down to it, pregnancy is one of the most beautiful things that can happen to a woman. What do you think of these beautiful things about pregnancy? 

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3 Ways To Spice Up Your Family Nights

With the school year back in full swing, schedules fill up faster and the to-do list gets longer. And consequently, scheduling some time for family activities is suddenly so much harder than it was during those blissful summer months. But don’t let family time take a backseat this school year. Instead, switch up your go-to family nights with something a little different and a bit more exciting.

Read some ideas to find out how you can spice up your normal family activities into family nights no one will want to miss.

Bring movie night outdoors

While the weather is nice enough, bring the cinema under the stars. Hold a family vote on what movie you will watch, and bring a T.V. onto the back deck. Place your lawn chairs in the shape of a movie auditorium and serve popcorn for the full experience. Better yet, if you have a pool, set up a projector screen and use floats instead of lawn chairs. It may take a little more effort, but your family will be talking about outdoor movie until the next time.

Make game night a little more competitive

A little healthy competition never hurt anybody. Next time you break out the board games for family game night, invite another family over to join in on the fun. Family friends, next-door neighbors, or the in-laws all make for a fun-filled night of competition. If you really want to go all-out, create a tournament system in whatever game you play to keep the fun going all night long.

Recreate the restaurant experience at home

Instead of going out to your family’s favorite restaurant, dine in at home. Assign different jobs to every family member so everyone is involved, and get creative with the menu! Create a restaurant experience in your home complete with a candlelit table and your nicest dishes. If you want to put in some extra effort, don’t skip out on dessert. Make-your-own ice cream sundae bars complete with all the toppings are always a hit!

Family nights can get a little repetitive if you do the same old thing every time. This school year put an exciting twist on your go-to family night activities. These spiced-up family nights will have your kids asking you to clear the schedule for the next one in no time at all.

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5 Tips for Raising Empathetic Kids

Every parents’ dream is to raise children who lead a life of empathy, compassion, and kindness and who inspire others to do the same. Like all other things in life, children best learn these habits by observing how their parents and other adult figures treat them when they are scared, sad, upset, or angry. Read our top tips for raising empathetic kids and establishing an empathetic environment at home so that your children show compassion and inspire others from a young age.

Be a role model

First and foremost, children learn habits and behaviors early on from watching how their parents act and respond to any and all situations. In the early years of their life and even after, children’s young minds take in and absorb everything they see around them. Not to mention, every kid grows up thinking that their parents are super-humans, and their greatest dream in life is to grow up to be just like you. So make sure you lead by example, and that your children see you living a life of compassion, and they will likely grow up and do the same.

Teach them to be kind before anything else

Your children will no doubt grow to be intelligent, wonderful, witty, talented, beautiful, and brave people in this world. But make sure they know that, before any of these other things, the most important thing for them to be is kind. Teach them that a warm heart and an open mind will take them far in life. More than anything, teach them kindness by showing kindness––to them, to your spouse, to friends, and to strangers.

Hold them to high standards and communicate your expectations to them

The biggest and easiest parenting mistake to make is to reward your children for every single instance of good behavior or after every good deed they do. It’s important to remember that we should expect our kids to be kind and compassionate, and that showing kindness is not always worthy of an award. Be sure to hold your kids to a high standard when it comes to their behavior and the way they treat others, and communicate your expectations clearly. Refrain from rewarding them after every instance they act with kindness to teach them that this kind of behavior should be expected at all times.

Make your child is aware about the world around them

It’s never too early to start showing your children the importance of service and philanthropy. Volunteer with a local charity and bring them along. Talk about the news and causes you care about around them. Raise their awareness even if they don’t completely understand the cause. If anything, they will know that you are passionate about something, they will understand it’s important to care for others, and that will instill in them a desire to act with passion as well.

Empower your kids

Teach them they can make a difference, and they will. Encourage them every single day to show one intentional act of kindness, and they will feel empowered to do so. Stop helicopter-parenting and let your children prove to you and to themselves that they can accomplish anything they want to as long as it’s fueled by a passion and desire to make the world a better place.

Establish these parenting habits early, so your children grow up in a home with clear and defined expectations of kindness, empathy, and compassion. In doing so, your children will learn habits they will use for the rest of their lives to inspire others to hold themselves to the same standard as well.

Check out The Most Important Thing You Can Leave Behind for Your Kids to learn more about our thoughts on family legacy and the importance of instilling values in your children.

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4 Ways To Celebrate The Fourth With Your Kids

It really is true that children make all holidays more exciting, and the Fourth of July is no exception. While watching fireworks at the end of the day is usually the the most traditional and most anticipated aspect of this holiday for children, there are so many fun things to do before the show starts. The Fourth of July festivities don’t have to wait until dark to commence, and there are a lot of great ways to celebrate with your kids earlier in the day. If you’re wondering what activities to plan, read these 4 ways to celebrate the Fourth with your kids.

Make red white and blue treats

Whipping up some sweet treats are an easy way to entertain your children while enjoying quality bonding time. Look up a good sugar cookie recipe, or even more American, an apple pie, and teach your children how to make it. Baking is a simple, fun activity and provides a finished product that acts as the perfect canvas for children to decorate with red, white, and blue icing and star-shaped sprinkles. Decorating treats are also perfect for bigger groups of kids of all ages, but be sure to make plenty because they go fast! Visit our Pinterest board for some good Fourth of July recipes.

Plan fun crafts on hand

Patriotic crafts are a great way to get in the holiday spirit with your children, and are fun for both you and them. Crafts keep kids engaged while developing a family tradition that everyone is sure to cherish. The best crafts for children involve letting them be creative and take reign of their work. Have your child pick out a few rocks from the yard that they can paint with red, white, and blue designs, or create firework artwork using red, white, and blue paint and some straws. View our Fourth of July Pinterest board for more ideas for fun crafts:

Play sports together

Backyard sports are a great way to get your children active on the Fourth, and are also a good way to bond as a family. Set up a volleyball net in the backyard for your family to hit the ball back and forth, or maybe start up a competitive tournament. The more the merrier! Badminton is another backyard sports favorite that is super easy to set up and play. If you want to stray away from the conventional sports, you can even get creative and hold a relay race or water balloon war if it gets really warm.  

Participate in a neighborhood parade

Have your kids decorate their bicycle or golf cart with patriotic decorations to ride in the local Fourth of July parade. Many neighborhoods and cities have small parades in which kids and their parents can join in and display their American pride. Decorating their bicycle and dressing up in red, white, and blue to parade around the neighborhood is a great way to get your kids excited about the day, and is a fun social activity as well.

 

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Why Fit Mothers Make for Better Parents

Before you get up in arms, thinking that this is a body-shaming article, rest assured that this article is solely focused on empowering bodies of all types. Fitness is a spectrum, and being fit has almost nothing to do with the way you look and everything to do with the way you function and feel. When you work out and make positive fitness goals for yourself as a mother, you’re far more likely to parent positively and be a happier person all around. Not to mention the strength you develop when you exercise daily! All of that weight-lifting and cardio adds up to being able to chase after and keep up with playfully errant toddlers all day, every day.

In the end, what makes fit mothers better parents? Let’s find out.

Fit Mothers Have Greater Patience

When you’re exhausted, and you feel weak, it can be so much harder to have patience with a screaming kid who’s throwing spaghetti at the wall—and in your face. Luckily, exercising can help mitigate those circumstances.

Getting in a quick morning workout, even just jogging around the neighborhood with the kids in the stroller, makes it that much easier to have patience throughout the day.

Fit Mothers Know How to Manage Time

Speaking of making time for workouts in the morning, being a fit mother means being able to manage time really well. Any parent will tell you that having kids is a full-time, 24/7 job. So, when is there time to sleep, much less workout?

The answer is that fit mothers know how to manage their time. It’s a strength that comes from internal discipline—and also just from a need to stay on top of their fitness. In that way, fit mothers are like super-superheroes.

Fit Mothers Have More Energy

It’s just a fact that exercise gives you more energy. When you’re a new mother—or even if you’ve been a mother for many years—more energy is guaranteed to be at the top of your list of desires.

Having more energy no doubt makes you a better parent. When you’re not tuckered out at the end of the day, you’re able to do more with your kids and be a more engaging and present parent.

All of this is not to say that mothers who don’t exercise aren’t great parents. Parenting, like fitness, is a spectrum, and we all fluctuate from time to time. It’s always important, as with anything, to try to do your best no matter what.

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