4 Role Models that Every Child Needs

A popular African proverb states, “It takes a village to raise a child.” Many parents have a story or two to verify the truth of this adage. Child rearing is a team sport. We rely on our support systems to help us meet the needs of our children. Amongst the collective of special people who contribute to our kids’ upbringing, are role models of all kinds. It’s human nature to seek out people we admire and want to emulate. One day your children will begin to search for role models of their own. When they do, make sure to surround them positive influences who you trust. Here are four role models that every child needs.

Famous Role Models

Fame is attractive. It’s no wonder many of us daydream of our chance to be amongst the stars. Though celebrity is rare, it’s natural to fawn over the power, talent and riches of the selected few. Because celebrities hold great influence on culture, entertainment and the latest trends, it’s important to guide your child toward positive celebrity role models instead of those we’d rather our children not imitate. Expose your children to people who are impactful, inspirational and bettering the community. Point them toward people who use their position for good. Children should have celebrity role models who set the bar high and encourage them to strive for greatness.

Family Role Models

Children also benefit from role models within the family. Immediate family, distant relatives and even longtime friends who’ve earned the distinction, can serve as role models. Unlike other types of relationships, with family your child is able to build a unique bond that comes with familiarity built over years. There is a different comfort and trust level, which gives your child the opportunity to engage in a way they can’t with others. Instead of only having the opportunity to admire from afar, your child will have the chance to frequently interact with their role model in a genuine manner. Because of this, family role models are the perfect bridge between children and their parents.

Peer Role Models

Peers have the power to affect the way one thinks, their self esteem and their daily choices, making them one the greatest influences in a child’s life. When you’re young, your reputation and others’ opinion of you can hold great weight. Peers’ ability to easily elevate or lower the social standing of the people around them heightens their importance in the eyes of your child. Consequently, children sometimes fall victim to the trap of negative influence. The best way to stay on the right path is to surround children with peers who motivate them to make beneficial choices. Your child needs friends who won’t embarrass or abandon them for doing the right thing. They need friends who they can look up to. They need friends who help them be the kind of child you raised them to be. The ideal peer role model reinforces the lessons you’ve instilled in your child instead of tempting them to do otherwise.

Teacher Role Models

Because your child already has you and several other influential adults around, a teacher role model may seem redundant. However, teachers garner a different type of respect. To earn the title of teacher, one must be a trained expert on a topic. Because the time spent in teacher-student relationships is strictly devoted to the selfless act of passing on knowledge, children tend to hold their teachers’ advice in very high regard. Consequently, students sometimes put more weight into their teachers’ opinion. This is especially true when it comes to academic or career advice. Teachers also make wonderful role models because they often communicate with parents and can reiterate messages that need to be restated.

Great role models can serve as a second line of defense when it comes to raising, encouraging and protecting your children. You will always be the first and most important example for your kids, but you can’t (and shouldn’t have to) shoulder that weight alone. Successful children grow by collecting valuable lessons from multiple sources and experiences. Positive role models can provide the extra boost of support parents need to raise happy, well-rounded young adults.

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How to Establish a Legacy

“The great use of life is to spend it for something that will outlast it.”
-William James

The word legacy is defined as a gift that is passed down from one generation to another. Tangible legacies can be proprietary; property, companies and finances. Legacies can also be more abstract. The way you live your life, inspire others or think about concepts similarly qualify as gifts that can be passed from generation to generation. Both concrete and philosophical legacies greatly impact the lives of those we leave behind. So, how should you go about building such a precious heirloom? Here are five tips to establish a lasting legacy.

  • Focus on Your Passion
    Your legacy should represent you. It should paint a story of who you are, what you value and your daily pursuit to achieve it. The best way to identify what your legacy should be centered around is to refer to your passion in life. What motivates you? What gives your life meaning? What do you feel you were put on earth to do? Wherever your deepest passion is, place your focus there.
  • Don’t Wait
    When it comes to solidifying your legacy, there is no age minimum. Most people think of their legacy as a late in life, retiree accomplishment that is only earned after decades of hard work. And even though it is true that legacies are typically associated with endings (whether it be in career or life), every ending has a beginning. When you start is up to you, so why wait?
  • Be Consistent
    After identifying your passion and initiating your pursuit, it’s time to get to work. Whether you are aware of it or not, you are authoring your legacy every single day. How profound your result is depends on the effort you invest. Be intentional about regularly planning and executing your next step toward greatness. Every step in the right direction strengthens the legacy you’ll leave.
  • Study Worthy Models
    Need guidance on how to go about your life’s work? Consider the following. Whose legacy do you admire? Who fuels your passion? Whose work motivates you to do more? Seek out those people. Research their stories, study their steps and use them as your blueprint. Adapt their outlines and make them fit your own. Originality is important, but there’s nothing wrong with finding sources of inspiration.
  • Destroy Interference
    Now that you’ve locked in on your mission, begun executing your plan and sought guidance, the last step is to stay the course. If your legacy is proprietary, be sure to tightly manage your savings, property or business to guarantee its continued growth and success. If your legacy is conceptual, make sure to live a life that matches the legacy you’ve chosen. Lastly, avoid any drama or controversy that could potentially tarnish or overshadow your end goal.

Maya Angelou famously said, “If you’re going to live, leave a legacy. Make a mark on the world that can’t be erased.” Through habitual dedication and discipline, you can perfect the gift that will represent who you are and what you stand for. And with these five tips, you can write your own story and leave a legacy to be proud of.

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Tips On Raising Nice & Caring Kids: Instill These Essential Values

Parents have a special privilege to be the greatest influencers in the early years of their child’s life. So as a responsible parent, one of your goals is probably to raise a kind and caring kid. Aside from doing society a big favor, it would be a huge accomplishment to see your children grow up to be compassionate and caring adults.

Yet as they say, it takes a village to raise a child. As they grow, your little one will most likely be exposed to various ideas, elements, and individuals that can positively or negatively create a huge impact on them. If you are not vigilant, you may one day discover that your child has become a stranger and that it is too late for any remedy. The following suggestions will help ensure that you are raising your kids well.

Teach Your Children To Be Courteous

One of the best indicators of a poorly-raised child is rudeness so teaching simple polite gestures such as saying please, excuse me, and thank you is a must. Aside from that, good manners are beneficial in all aspects of life so it is best to instill this value as early as possible. Remember that polite children grow up to be gracious adults.

Teach Them The Power of Kindness

You surely do not want to raise bullies with little or no regard to the feelings of others. So encourage your kids to do small acts of kindness every day. Tell them that the simple effort of lending a helping hand to a needy friend or saying a word of encouragement to a grieving person has the power to turn someone one’s life for the better.

Teach Them The Value Of Patience

Try your best not to rant whenever you have to line up and try not to scream when your child is being unruly. It is definitely a big challenge but displaying self-control will teach the youngsters the value of patience. Teaching them patience will help your children to manage their emotions and stay calm in stressful situations.

Encourage Them To Share

Your kid will grow up to be a generous fellow if you as parents will provide them opportunities to share what they have, no matter how small it is. It can be as simple as giving them extra food in their lunch bag so they have something to share with their classmates. You can also get your children involved in charitable activities. The thought that their small act will be of good help to others will boost your kid’s confidence as well.

Show Them Ways To Be Grateful

If you fail to teach your kids the value of gratitude, they may grow up to be whiners and complainers. Teaching your kids to be thankful for the things they have in life will help you raise happy and positive individuals. You can try simple activities like keeping a daily gratitude journal together so they can be aware of the blessings they receive.

The task of parenthood may be overwhelming and you probably sometimes worry that you are screwing things up for your kids. Yet amidst the millions of parenting tips and suggestion you will come across along the way, the formula for raising good kids boils down to one thing and that is by leading through example. Kids learn more by watching you and will likely pick up most of your gestures and habits.

Therefore, the most effective way to teach values to your children is by practicing the values yourself. The best thing about it is that as you teach your kids to be better a person, you end up improving yourself as well.

 

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5 Tips for Raising Empathetic Kids

Every parents’ dream is to raise children who lead a life of empathy, compassion, and kindness and who inspire others to do the same. Like all other things in life, children best learn these habits by observing how their parents and other adult figures treat them when they are scared, sad, upset, or angry. Read our top tips for raising empathetic kids and establishing an empathetic environment at home so that your children show compassion and inspire others from a young age.

Be a role model

First and foremost, children learn habits and behaviors early on from watching how their parents act and respond to any and all situations. In the early years of their life and even after, children’s young minds take in and absorb everything they see around them. Not to mention, every kid grows up thinking that their parents are super-humans, and their greatest dream in life is to grow up to be just like you. So make sure you lead by example, and that your children see you living a life of compassion, and they will likely grow up and do the same.

Teach them to be kind before anything else

Your children will no doubt grow to be intelligent, wonderful, witty, talented, beautiful, and brave people in this world. But make sure they know that, before any of these other things, the most important thing for them to be is kind. Teach them that a warm heart and an open mind will take them far in life. More than anything, teach them kindness by showing kindness––to them, to your spouse, to friends, and to strangers.

Hold them to high standards and communicate your expectations to them

The biggest and easiest parenting mistake to make is to reward your children for every single instance of good behavior or after every good deed they do. It’s important to remember that we should expect our kids to be kind and compassionate, and that showing kindness is not always worthy of an award. Be sure to hold your kids to a high standard when it comes to their behavior and the way they treat others, and communicate your expectations clearly. Refrain from rewarding them after every instance they act with kindness to teach them that this kind of behavior should be expected at all times.

Make your child is aware about the world around them

It’s never too early to start showing your children the importance of service and philanthropy. Volunteer with a local charity and bring them along. Talk about the news and causes you care about around them. Raise their awareness even if they don’t completely understand the cause. If anything, they will know that you are passionate about something, they will understand it’s important to care for others, and that will instill in them a desire to act with passion as well.

Empower your kids

Teach them they can make a difference, and they will. Encourage them every single day to show one intentional act of kindness, and they will feel empowered to do so. Stop helicopter-parenting and let your children prove to you and to themselves that they can accomplish anything they want to as long as it’s fueled by a passion and desire to make the world a better place.

Establish these parenting habits early, so your children grow up in a home with clear and defined expectations of kindness, empathy, and compassion. In doing so, your children will learn habits they will use for the rest of their lives to inspire others to hold themselves to the same standard as well.

Check out The Most Important Thing You Can Leave Behind for Your Kids to learn more about our thoughts on family legacy and the importance of instilling values in your children.

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The Most Important Thing You Can Leave Behind for Your Kids?

What is your legacy? What do you leave behind for your family once you’re no longer with them? If your first thought was just to say, “I have a significant amount of money saved up to take care of them,” then you probably haven’t built a legacy. A legacy is about so much more than money; it’s about the lessons and the values you instill in your kids, the kind that last a lifetime and beyond.

Leave Your Kids a Legacy of Hope

In the darkest of times, the most important of all resources is one that can’t be drilled or mined or even synthesized in a lab. The world needs hope.

One of the greatest and most important things that you can leave behind for your kids is a legacy of hope. Teach them that hope lights up the darkness and dispels all negativity. Instill in them the sense that hope persists, even in the face of extreme adversity.

When you teach your children to hope beyond measure, you create an immeasurably positive legacy that has the power to change the world.

Build a Legacy of Trust

Trust cannot be won. Trust cannot be bought. Trust must be earned and built over time. Like hope, trust is a priceless commodity.

If you possibly can, leave your children with a legacy of trust. Help them to understand the fundamental principles involved in building and maintaining trust. Again, this effort will go a long way to making the world a better place—not only for your kids, but for their kids, and their kids’ kids.

Create a Legacy of Kindness

Above all else, kindness is a virtue that’s everlasting. When you impart the value of kindness to your children, you leave behind a remarkable legacy.

Being kind to their fellow man will not only serve your kids well, it will also improve the world in priceless ways.

Leaving behind financial freedom for your children is wonderful to ensure that they’ll never worry about material comforts, but what’s more important in the end is that your children are kind, trustworthy (and trusting), and hopeful. That legacy will be carried on for generations to come.

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